Your loved ones in Spirit are going to try their absolute best to use the Medium as a Tool. They arrive usually a few hours to a day before a scheduled reading to learn how to use the Medium as an Instrument - a Method of Communication. It is quite remarkable and I'm someone who regularly does this work.
My job really is just to make the intention to read and then report on the orchestration of impressions that I see, hear, feel, and know. Such soft, fluttering impressions.
Your loved ones' jobs are to lower their energy and bombard the medium with whatever extrasensory wavelengths they need to so the Medium can share what is being received so the client can identify the spirit(s). To get you to recognize them through the Tool of the Medium.
You need to allow the Medium to overlay his/her personality onto the information, but the Medium will try his/her best to resist judging or messing with the information.
Majority of the information received by the Medium....well, the Medium does not understand. There will be a few symbols that is in the Medium's dictionary. But! If there isn't a Psychic Knowing associated with what is shown or heard or felt then there is a chance the Medium may interpret why XYZ is being shown/heard/felt - the Medium thinking it pertains to you (the client), but you recognize that Spirit is talking about a current event regarding another family member. This is Spirit's way of trying to let you know that Spirit acknowledges what is currently going on and is helping to oversee/guide the issue/experience/event/challenge.
You really are very much a part of the Reading. You and the Psychic/Medium are working together to decipher the clues, sift through and sort the information, as well as doing your best to understand the Tool you're hiring for a Reading to get the most out of your sessions.
I literally am left gobsmacked after each Mediumship reading (and Psychic). But seriously! I know that I have no prior knowledge and I just rely on allow Spirit to stream through my Mind Tool.
That is the power of your Loved Ones. They come in out of the love they have for you and I really do this work to help you remember that Love by sharing the Evidential Information.
The readings I did over the weekend...the readings are so fuzzy in my head. Did they happen? Absolutely! They are recorded and transcribed. But! I can't remember them since none of what I was sharing or experiencing in the readings were my own thoughts/feeling/XYZ.
It was Spirit.
Let your Loved Ones do their magic. Trust the Medium because of their experience, knowledge, and...most importantly...the Medium's HEART. All 3 - You, the Medium, Spirit - work together in an Energy Transference & Cohesion & Orchestra.
Your Loved Ones want you to know they are still a part of your lives while they're in a form that my tiny human head cannot comprehend.